staggr

[boyobscured]

STAGGR

ABOUT ME

Credence. Just Credence is fine.

FULL NAME

23 I think

AGE

BIRTHDAY

I don't know what this means

PRONOUNS

None

RELATIONSHIP STATUS

INTERESTED IN

72 Shepherd Road

ADDRESS

I work at the theatre

OCCUPATION

FAVORITE QUOTE

FAVORITE MUSICIANS

I have a book of William Blake's poems that I like.

FAVORITE BOOKS

I haven't really seen any.

FAVORITE MOVIES/TV SHOWS

EXPERIENCE

I didn't go to regular school.

EDUCATION

TRAINING

I worked at a circus, mostly with animals.

PAST JOB EXPERIENCE

English Some Latin

LANGUAGES

ADDITIONAL TALENTS

PORTFOLIO PIECES

CONTACT ME

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deerlyBeloved
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personal inbox
inbox

Comments

un: nopantskilla

[variantcover]

this is adorable.

btw your pronouns are he/him.

[boyobscured]

Okay, but what does that mean? It's just whether you're he or she?

[variantcover]

ya. it's pretty straightforward for people like you or me who know we're a guy/girl/whatever we were born as.
but some people identify as something different than how they were born.
like they were born with boy parts but they know deep down inside they're a girl so they start living as a girl.
or, some people don't feel like either gender. so they'll use different pronouns altogether, like they or them.

[boyobscured]

[ He reads this several times before he answers. This is so far beyond anything he's heard of before. He's not sure about being something different than you're born, but if someone told him they felt that way he would just accept it. It's not like he could tell someone else how they feel about themselves, after all. ]

You can be something that's not a boy or girl?

[variantcover]

sure you can! you can be whatever you want to be. it's called being nonbinary, as in neither male nor female.

[boyobscured]

Anyone can be that? You can just decide you don't want to be a girl or a boy?

[ He's trying to get the concept, but of course lacks the right language and context. This is simply revelatory okay! ]

[variantcover]

if it's what feels right for you, you can be anything you want to be.

do you think you might not want to be a guy?

[boyobscured]

I don't know that I want to be HUMAN.

But I'm definitely not a girl. I didn't know there was another thing you could be. Is this one of those future things? Is that why I don't know about it?

[variantcover]

i don't know a ton about the history of it, bc i'm cisgender (aka born a girl, identify as a girl), but i'm pretty sure trans people have existed in secret for, like, a long ass time. it's just that nobody really talked about any of it or had the right terminology to discuss it until the future.

if you don't think of yourself as human, i don't think there's any reason to stick with a human gender if you don't want to. you could be what they call agender. (which is no gender at all, which is slightly different than being a third, neutral gender)

[boyobscured]

Trans people? That's what you call someone who feels like they're not a boy but a girl or the other way around?

[ Language is HARD, okay. ]

Agender. Not having a gender at all. Not a boy or a girl or the nonbinary option, but totally void instead.

[ Well that resonates. ]

[variantcover]

"trans"/"transgender" is sort of the catch all word for it. basically it means someone who is living as a gender other than the one they were born as. that includes nonbinary/agender people too.

agender people sometimes use a different pronoun, like they/them, but if you want to keep using he/him, you can do that and still be agender. it's pretty much customizable.

[boyobscured]

I don't know that I understand all of this but I want to think about it more.

[variantcover]

for sure! this is kind of a big deal thing to wrap your head around, i get it.

if you have any questions, you can always ask me. if i don't know the answer, i'll try to find out from someone who does.

[boyobscured]

Thank you. I might ask you again. Existing outside what I thought the choices were is appealing I think.

[variantcover]

anything i can do to help you feel more comfortable being your genuine self, i wanna do.

[boyobscured]

I'm not sure who that is I guess. But I'm trying to figure it out.

[variantcover]

sometimes it's not easy to figure stuff like that out. it can take time... experimentation. but it's worth it.